Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Turning into November

1) It's just starting to get cool in the evening, but not to where I need a jacket. And to think if I was in Chicago, I'd already be dressing in layers. 

2) I'm beginning to gather my fall recipes that have become staples. Turkey chili, pumpkin pancakes, Tex Mex chicken parm, and roast pork loin with sweet potato wedges. And I'm sure there will be more to come. 

3) I swear I need to spend more of these evenings off the cell phone and social media and more in books and quiet reflection. Seeing the fools exhort their foolish views, unabashed hate, and childish language on social media reminds me of the kind of person I don't want to be. 

4) I truly don't think I can remember the last time all my sports teams were this bad.  Are you so wonder when one of my teams would win a championship again. Now I really wonder when 1 of them will make the playoffs ever again.

5)  I'm glad I got to see Chris Stapleton perform in concert, it was just a shame that his wife wasn't there to join him on vocals. And oh my gosh, did my feet ever get cold during the last 2 hours.




Sunday, October 20, 2019

Southern Vacation, part 1

This schedule summarizes me taking a vacation. On Saturday, I worked 9-4 and 5-10:30. I was in bed by 11 pm. On Sunday, I got up at 1:30 am, ran 6.3 miles, taking a 5 a.m. flight to Charlotte and then onto Destin, FL. Vacation time is well deserved and it's on!

Ok, story from the Newport News airport. Guy in front of me is checking at the airport. I can tell from his bag he's a marine. Agent asks if he's flying to Charlotte or Philly, those are the only airports you can fly to from Newport news. says he doesn't know. He's a Marine and doesn't know where to fly! And factor in that he's defending our country... this doesn't exactly instill me with confidence. 

Anyway, I flew into Charlotte, which has some of the worst amenities for a major airport in the country. People actually think the Great American Bagel is like a breakfast destination, the line was maybe 20 people long. As a NY guy, their bagels are the equivalent of Taco Bell to someone from Texas. Give me the tomazzo bagel and let's just move on. And their PZA is just about the worst pizza I have ever had. Sour sauce, salty cheese, I mean I've had frozen pizzas that tasted like Frank Pepes by comparison. And even better, you pay the outrageous airport prices for it! But thank God for the Admirals Club, I got my free avocado toast with egg, tomato,  crumbled cheese, red onion, smoked salmon, and s&p. It tasted great, but my gosh, one bite and the ingredients exploded all over the carpet, my chair, my jeans... and maybe one crumb made it to the mini sized paper plate. 

Newport News was rainy, Charlotte was cloudy. Give me some of that Florida sun, because as hard as I've worked, I've earned this. And praise be to God that even if I'm not a millionaire, I still have some spare income where I can have some fun and have these unique experiences. 

Saturday, October 19, 2019

Chris Stapleton setlist

Second One to Know
Without Your Love 
Nobody to Blame
Might As Well Get Stoned 
Parachute
Millionaire
Trying to Untangle My Mind
Fire Away
I Was Wrong
Starting Over
Whiskey and You
Hard Living
Get Down to Arkansas
Traveller 
Outlaw State of Mind
Death Row
Free Bird/The Devil Named Music
Broken Halos
Tennessee Whiskey 
Midnight Train to Memphis

Friday, October 11, 2019

Fall in session


1) I haven’t had a legit vacation in a long time. I guess the last one that lasted a reasonable amount of time was when I went back to Chicago for Matt’s wedding. I’m now 9 days away from my first trip to Destin, FL and it can’t come fast enough. My work days have become far more intense going from 2-3 appointments per day to 5-6 per day. One of our main processors has been out for the last month and due to family issues, we don’t know when she’s going to be back. Plus we’re training a new hire and she’s a long way from being ready to have appointments with students. So right now the load of meeting with people is on me. And I find that by the end of each week, my eyes are getting heavier and my patience is getting shorter, especially with people asking where their money is and I can’t answer the question, since that’s not my cross to bear. So a break is sorely needed and well earned.

2) So I’m taking Friday off from both my jobs. Well Friday was scheduled for my day job. Here’s what I have planned: Top Golf, Dave’s BBQ, Aquarium, Reaver Beach Brewery, Chris Stapleton concert

3) I’m going heavy on the pumpkin. Pumpkin waffles from Trader Joes, making pumpkin pecan pancakes this weekend. But no pumpkin spice lattes. I’m not saying I would never try one, but I’m not about to spend my own money on a cup of coffee for myself.

4) I think I need to listen to some more Jon Pardi music

5) Trying a new herb garden. No mint, no basil this time, since those are more for the summer and then tend to sprout up like weeds and overwhelm everything else in the garden. This time, it’s oregano, rosemary, parsley, sage, cilantro, and chives. Let’s see how these grow.

Wednesday, October 02, 2019

NHL Predictions


Eastern Conference
Metropolitan Division
Washington
Pittsburgh

NY Islanders

Carolina
NY Rangers
New Jersey
Columbus


Philadelphia

Atlantic Division
Tampa Bay
Boston
Toronto
Florida
Montreal
Buffalo
Ottawa
Detroit

Western Conference
Central Division
Dallas
Colorado
St. Louis
Nashville
Winnipeg
Chicago
Minnesota

Pacific Division
Vegas

San Jose

Calgary
Anaheim
Edmonton
Vancouver
Los Angeles
Arizona

Eastern Conference Finals
Tampa Bay over Washington

Western Conference Finals
San Jose over Nashville

Stanley Cup Finals
Tampa Bay over San Jose



Saturday, September 28, 2019

Weekend Midwest Roaming

I really must be nuts. I'm getting over a cold,  I have a right calf strain, I worked 13 hours on Friday. And now I got up at 3 a.m. on Saturday to get one of the last seats on this airplane from Norfolk to Charlotte to get through to Cincinnati. It's my only 7 Line Army game this season though I sat near them in DC.

I landed in Cincinnati and had to wait 25 minutes for the hotel shuttle to pick me up. Once I arrived at the local Holiday Inn, I couldn't check in because every room was occupied. So I left my luggage with the front desk and ordered an Uber to get down, since there's no public transportation to get to downtown Cincinnati from the airport. I got picked up by a Steelers fan and we had a great chat about football and his brother, who's also a Jets fan.

I got dropped off at Carew Tower and I had to walk through two passageways, take two elevators, and a stairway to reach the observatory deck. The attendant told me my breath would be taken away, and it was, although I think it had more to do with that I was 48 stories up with a ledge that came up to my chest. Nonetheless I had views of the offices of Great American insurance, Macy's, Fifth Third Bank, PNC, and others. But after ten minutes up there, I was ready to go.

Lunch time. It was off to Fiery Hen for some Nashville style hot fried chicken. The walk there wasn't too fun, I passed several homeless folks, a jerk playing loud hip hop, and numerous whitewashed window store fronts. It felt like an expanded downtown Newport News. Anyway, when I saw they had Three Floyd's Gumballhead on top, I had to get a draft. The iced tea was put on hold. I would have loved a Zombie Dust, but I was still very happy to drink the best wheat beer I've ever had. I ordered half a chicken, but the question was the spice level that I'd select. They had six levels and I wanted spice without tears steaming down my face. I went with the 3rd hottest, the Nashville hot. I have to admit it was really spicy. The skin was super crispy, the chicken was juicy, cooked really great. It was served on a piece of white bread that I did nothing with since it became drenched in the hot sauce. I mean I know bread is supposed to be absorb heat, but when it becomes soaked in hot sauce...But besides the chicken, they had a great slaw with kale and Brussels sprouts. Not too creamy, thankfully. The cornbread, on the other hand, was pretty dense, it tasted more like bread without that real corn flavor. So I didn't care for it much.

From there, with my mouth still burning a little, I walked south on Vine St towards Oktoberfest. I didn't even know Oktoberfest was going on, but that explained why the downtown hotels were charging $300 and $400 a pop. I walked past many stands serving pretzels, beer, brats, and past two polka bands, and went into the Underground Railroad Freedom Museum. The theater presentations were very informative and the slave den replica was pretty good. But for $15, it was an ok museum. Lots of history, but only so many artifacts to go around. It felt like waking through a history class, but there weren't many opportunities to interact with the exhibits.

Time for the purpose of the trip. Mets baseball. I walked across one of the bridges into Newport, KY and joined nearly a thousand other Mets fans at Hofbrahaus. The atmosphere was so upbeat and energetic, even though the chances of making the playoffs are really slim. I didn't even mind spending fifteen bucks for a beer. Even if it was a decidedly average lager.

A thousand strong wearing blue shirts walked back over another bridge into downtown Cincinnati, then turned left onto Pete Rose Way to arrive at Great American Ballpark. Our seats were in the left field corner. I have to give the town credit, their fans showed up. Certainly wasn't a sellout, but there were at least 30,000 people. But with us in attendance and the need to win every day, I actually felt confident they were going to win. After the top of the first inning, I knew they were in trouble. Nimmo, McNeill, and Alonso were set down quickly and the  Reds loaded the bases with nobody out. They scored two and I just had a sinking feeling.

I left my seat for good after the first inning. For two reasons. One, the game felt like it would finish bad. Two, I was going to bake in that sun since I didn't have sunscreen. There was a large charging station area behind my section so I parked myself there. Most of the Reds fans were friendly and curious who we were, maybe two or three pricks.

Also, bad concession options. No lemonade. Five dollars for a small bottle of water. There was Graters ice cream.. and all four flavors had chocolate. How about some freaking vanilla? At least they had Nathan's hot dogs. The organization also respects their history. I saw statues of Johnny Bench, Tony Perez, Joe Nuxhall, Ernie Lombardi, and Frank Robinson. Maybe I missed it, but I don't know how they're missing Pete Rose.

So after a disgusting, heartbreaking loss, I waited 25 minutes for a streetcar. Oh on a sidenote, the public transportation in that city sucks. Few options, little ground covered, long waits, huge crowds. But here's what blew me away. Only three buses a day from the airport to downtown. Three!

Anyway, after being on my feet for most of the last five hours, I managed to score a seat, surrounded by Oktoberfest drunks, people wearing that ugly Red, and a bachelorette party, though they were all in their 50s. I made sure to avoid all eye contact. I took the car to Taft's, wanting to try their beer and tri tip. Sadly, the kitchen was closed, it was just too backed up apparently. So I began drinking, going with the flight. My favorites were the key lime Caribbean lager and the Verdict No. 5, a juicy IPA. But all five were enjoyable, well crafted. I even chatted with a married couple at the bar, the guy was really knowledgeable about the beer and helped me decide my flight. I hung there for an hour but I needed some grub, I hadn't eaten in eight hours. The bartenders had a few recommendations, but they mentioned Bakersfield tacos, a place that had been on my radar.

I walked four blocks south and one block east, and  And it was a young attractive clientele, thank God I can still kinda fit in there.

After cursing out one asshole Reds fan on the street, I grabbed a Lyft back to the hotel. I checked in finally... and I didn't have my bathroom bag. My body was so exhausted after being awake for 20 straight hours, my feet and calves were almost shot.

But Jessica at the front desk was so ridiculously kind, giving me a bathroom supply kit and a voucher for a free glass of wine at the bar. I was hoping she would join me (for a drink), but that was out of the question, I couldn't ask. After my drink, I even chatted with a young, kinda pretty bellhop who saw my Mets shirt and asked what the story was. We talked about travel for maybe 5 minutes but she had to get back to work. I left her with a kiss on the cheek. Back to my room for some music and it was bedtime.

I woke up the next day at 5 a.m.... and went back to sleep immediately. Up again at 6... back to sleep. Finally at 6:30, I got up and decided to check my flights. I wad planning on connecting through Chicago, but I was going to have a huge layover. I longed at the schedule and my heart started racing. I realized my first plane left at 7:50, not 8:10, the latter was actually my landing time in Chicago. I had overslept. So with no shower I dressed and stormed downstairs. Thankfully, the shuttle arrived within five minutes, and check in at the airport went pretty quick. So while there were a lot of people in security, there were maybe six lines, so it moved quickly. In truth, I wasn't panicking. I knew I'd eventually get home, it was just a matter of how late. I got through security, even with security going through my backpack. I ran down the escalator and boarded the monorail which was waiting on me and got to my gate with everyone already boarded. I think I made it by ten minutes.

After landing, I took the blue line to downtown Chicago and connected to the brown line going north. I attended service at Moody Church. Even though it was never my home church, I like the old school feeling in that classic brick building. Pipe organ, orchestra, choir, guitars, and drums. I wish there were more worship styles like that in more churches.

One of the smartest things I did was download an app that allowed me to track where every bus and train were located. It helped me know when to take my time and when to rush. I took the 22 bus south on Clark to Portillo's, for old times sake. My order was simple: big beef with sweet peppers, hot peppers, and cheddar cheese. As the beef juices ran through my hands, I heard angels singing. With so few tables available, a mother and son on vacation from Rhode Island joined me. I gave them some trip tips and headed on my way.

Back to the 22 bus, this time going north to the Country Club. I wanted to see my fellow Jets fans. Now they were playing in Foxboro, so I had no desire to watch. I couldn't stay long anyway because I had to get back to the airport. Not for a flight, that wasn't happening for another 5 hours. I had a girl to meet. I'd been chatting on and off with this woman for over a year and we'd talked on the phone maybe a handful of times. Well two days prior, she just happened to be connecting through Chicago as well. Her flight on United was leaving at 3:50 so I had to move fast. I ended up taking a bus west to the Addison stop on the blue line to take the train six stops to the airport. Since she was flying United, I went straight to Terminal 1. One problem...wrong terminal. It turns out she was at Gate F26 and that was Terminal 2.

I got through security and despite my bad calf, jogged to F26. I made it there by 2:30 so after a year, I got to meet Katie. We talked for an hour about our travels, friends, personalities, etc. It was a really good connection, but I can't see myself dating a woman with five kids.

Once she left, I walked over to the mini sized Admirals Club. Had to have my free guacamole.

Saturday, September 21, 2019

Wake Me Up

I think every single September, I have a post with this title. It's such a memorable reference, even though I've never been a Green Day fan.

1) Well my old boss got hired to become my new boss. I'm glad the company made the hire; I would have felt a little less secure about my future in the company had they promoted the senior advisor to the director's role.

2) I'm learning some Southern slang, or at least Virginia slang. Phrases like:
"That's what's up"
"Son of a biscuit eater"
"I know dassright"

On the other hand,  maybe it's just hood slang. Most white people down here act black when they get agitated anyway, so I guess I'd just be fitting in...

3) I'm halfway through watching the 8-part Ken Burns documentary on the country music. It is so informative and interesting, I just wish it could go longer and finish at the turn of the century instead of 1995 or 6.

4) Kayla on Worst Cooks In America may be a ditz, but she is the cutest thing ever.

5) It is still incomprehensible to me that Sam Darnold has mono. After starting 0-2, the Jets have 4 games that are practically impossible to win. Their season ended after two weeks, even before the Mets. Then again, at least the Giants were done too.

Post note: I usually stop after five notes,  but I'll add one more. My goal for the last 3 months of 2019 is to find a church home where I can experience community, serve actively, and be challenged spiritually.

Thursday, August 22, 2019

NFL Predictions


AFC
AFC East
New England   12-4
NY Jets            8-8
Buffalo             7-9
Miami              5-11

AFC North
Pittsburgh         10-6
Baltimore         10-6
Cleveland        9-7
Cincinnati        4-12

AFC South
Houston           10-6
Jacksonville     9-7
Tennessee        8-8
Indianapolis     4-12

AFC West
Kansas City      13-3
San Diego        8-8
Denver             7-9
Oakland           5-11

NFC
NFC East
Philadelphia     11-5
Dallas              9-7
NY Giants        5-11
Washington      4-12

NFC North
Minnesota        11-5
Chicago            10-6
Green Bay        9-7
Detroit             6-10
           
NFC South
New Orleans    10-6
Atlanta             9-7
Carolina           7-9
Tampa Bay      6-10

NFC West
Los Angeles     10-6
Seattle              9-7
San Francisco   7-9
Arizona            3-13

AFC Championship Game
Kansas City over New England

NFC Championship Game
Philadelphia over Minnesota

Super Bowl
Kansas City over Philadelphia

Sunday, August 18, 2019

Family

At the restaurant Saturday night, there was a little boy, maybe 7 or 8, who wanted to talk to me a lot. I found out his name was Walter. He was there with six adults, I believe almost all parents and grandparents. He called me his Captain, so I promptly nicknamed him Skipper.

We celebrated his dad's birthday, exchanged dog photos, and we even gave each other a side hug before he and his family left.

I don't know if I'll ever be a husband and father, but an occasion like this really got to me. He was just such a great kid. I found myself praying for him last night.

Not only that, but at school, I waited on a mom with two young, rambunctious boys, maybe five years old. One of them was getting a little upset at one point and I reached my right fist out to him. He bumped it and immediately smiled. In that moment, he was filled with joy. And because he felt that way, I felt the same way.

Like a lot of singles, I have moments when I want to be single and there are also moments when I wonder about what having a family would be like. And even though I may be on the verge of a relationship, it's a struggle still to be content with what I have and not yearn for what I don't.

But I feel glad that I can make a positive difference even if it's with strangers and people I may not see again. I can take a little bit of joy in that truth. And for now, maybe that's the sign of growth and the thing for me to be at peace with.

Question: How can God use my trials to bless those around me?

Monday, August 12, 2019

Sunday blues

Can I have this day over? I got home at 3:00 a.m. after nine hours of driving. So right away I knew I'd be on edge.
 
I slept till 9, woke up  had half a grapefruit, skipped church, which was a terrible decision,and went to play softball. We had to forfeit since we had nowhere near enough players. But we still had a scrimmage.
 
There were two shots to deep center field that were over my head and I had a play on both of them, yet both of them went off the top of my glove and I missed the balls. After the 2nd one, I did not have it in me to play anymore. My heart was gone. I felt I was hurting the team, and I felt like I was not contributing anymore. And if I couldn't contribute anymore, then I had no business playing softball. Even though there are 2 more weeks of the season, I don't know if I will ever go back. Because what's the use if I'm not playing well and enjoying myself. Personally I can't have one without the other. At this point I am not doing my job and I think I'm better off walking away.
 
Can someone explain to me how having a tattoo or piercing your nipples, or piercing your stomach somehow gives you stronger beliefs than the people who don't do that? Such garbage.
 
I swear to God Almighty, if it wasn't for food and music, I would be in a psych ward for clinical depression by now.

Sunday, July 28, 2019

Summer drifting by

1) So this is my birthday week. It's #38, and thankfully I still can convince people that I'm in my 20s. I don't have any specific plans for that day, well, besides blood and work. But the Jim Gaffigan show will be the next night in Norfolk, so it's something to look forward to.

2) Wow, I have a coffee date on Tuesday with a cop. She offered to give me her number before I even asked for it. It's pretty amazing how it happens so easily with some, while some others make it impossible to have a conversation or to ever get together.

3) I baked blueberry lemon pecan bread this past week. Really thought about taking it into work, but I think I'm just gonna hold onto this one for myself, freeze it, and give a little bit away at a time when the moment is right.

4)  It's so weird that I brought a grapefruit for the 1st time in 2 years today. I've always liked them, but I've never had the craving for one. Then again I don't know too many people who wake up and crave grapefruits,  I think pretty much anybody who eats grapefruits regularly is doing it because they will feel healthier about themselves.

5)  I try to convince myself I can have the air conditioner off in the summer time, until it is time to go to sleep in my bedroom which does not have a ceiling fan. And then going to sleep takes me about 30 minutes of tossing and turning.

Friday, July 12, 2019

Something about being off on a Friday

1) Well, mom is moved into her new apartment in North Carolina. It was 5 days that basically can be summarized this way... driving, unpacking, heavy lifting, and shopping. She told me I went above and beyond, but the way I see it, I can't go above and beyond for her. She deserves everything I can give her. Because she'd have done the same for me.

2) I have absolutely no joy for the United States women's soccer team winning the World Cup. Because with that arrogant,  disrespectful bitch MR absolutely mocking this country, she absolutely ruined it. I'm convinced Sue Bird has CTE or some kind of irreparable brain damage to spend a time with such a horrible human being.

3)  But enough of the queers and dykes. I'm getting back into softball after 7 or 8 years away. I don't know what it is, but playing baseball strains my legs like no other activity, not even all out sprinting.  I seriously I need to figure out a way to keep my calves loose and my hip flexors pain free. But in the exhibition game, I had 6 hits in 6 at bats, so maybe my swing is getting better with time. Eh, it's probably my raw power...

4) When she says she wants you, but you know it's only because she's desperate to be in a relationship and it has little if anything to do with you specifically... hard pass.

5)  I will always continue to support Ring of Honor wrestling even if it's not the cool trendy promotion to follow anymore. F the haters.

Song pick: "Baby Put the Hurt On Me" Midland

Saturday, June 29, 2019

I'm really trying this

1) So earlier this week, I made a decision to enter a hot dog eating contest. Basically a friend of mine has a friend who owns a new hot dog joint in Virginia Beach, they're looking for contestants, and I decided to give it a shot. I've basically in the middle of 48 hours of training where I am eating 99% fruits and vegetables and drinking the equivalent of the Mississippi River in water. Lettuce, celery, peppers, spinach, kale, and watermelon.  And I have become an expert on the conversion of ounces to pints and quarts. I have drink so much water that I have become physically uncomfortable. My Max out meal is in one hour, eating basically what I just described, except more of it. I really have no idea how many hot dogs I'll be able to eat in 30 minutes tomorrow, but why not go for it?

2)  As disappointing as my experience was being alone at the Guy Fieri pizza parlor opening, I enjoyed my experience at the taco dive just as much. Free food and drinks for 2 hours, a wall of hot sauces, homemade salsas, pickled vegetables, and a wall covered, with cassette tapes, vinyl records, and compact discs. I was halfway searching on the walls around looking for VCR tapes.  And the tacos were excellent, I especially enjoyed the carne asada and the al pastor. Only wish I'd found the shrimp diablo.

3)  I guess I'm just wired in a way to stand up for the underdog. Whether that's certain sports teams, wrestling promotions, entertainment, political views, human rights views, I guess a have a heart for the oppressed, the rejected, and the misunderstood.

4)  Very happy for mom that she's moving to Cary again after 16 years away. I pray for her health, happiness, and joy in this next phase of her life. She's earned it.

5) Maybe the fakest thing in the world is how love is portrayed in movies and on TV. In real life, it's about impossible to find, way harder to keep, and you have to do everything perfectly to keep a good person with you.

Thursday, June 13, 2019

Midweek thoughts

1. There are only really two bad things about getting a tan. One, the risk of sunburn. Two, the gray hairs on my chest become much easier to spot.

2. Richard Jeni was right. Every city has one station on the radio simply designed to make lonely people kill themselves. Nothing but love songs.

3. The Mets are absolutely despicable. Distinctly mediocre at best. I am relieved I have tickets for only one more game this season. And this is just another reason why it's smart for me to work Friday and Saturday night. What else would I be doing? I'd be following these crappy games, and following these dummies on social media who are also following these games.

4. Mom's moving to Cary NC in July. I'm just glad she's getting out of Chicago.

5. I have made my final student loan payment of $612. Over $11,000 paid in just under 4 years, $6,400 was in the last nine months alone. I am officially... debt...freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Lonestar setlist

Saturday Night
No News
Tequila Talking
Running Away With My Heart
Lonely Grill
Everything's Changed/Unusually Unusual/Come Crying to Me/You Walked In
You're Like Coming Home
Mountains
Shallow
My Front Porch Looking In
Mr. Mom
I'm Already There
Walking in Memphis
What About Now
With Me
Out Go the Lights
I'm In A Hurry/Take It Easy/ Roll On/Already Gone/ Mountain Music
Amazed